This past weekend was a holiday weekend in the States. I kinda slacked off in my posting, and now I am working to get back on track.
The truth, though, is that I feel like I am kinda drifting. I should be taking my own advice, but I’m not. I should know what I’m doing, but I don’t. Instead, I feel a bit paralyzed by fear of all the things I should be doing, thinking, saying, etc.
The Tyranny of Expectations
I never realized how ingrained expectations have become in my life. I find that everything I do comes with an attached “supposed to…”
Perhaps you can relate.
Supposed to…go to college.
Supposed to…get a good (stable) job.
Supposed to…save for retirement.
Supposed to…get married.
This is how you’re supposed to write a successful blog.
This is how you’re supposed to market your business.
This is how you’re supposed to live your life.
The list of expectations goes on and on.
The Renegade Resistance
But you and I are renegades from the status quo. We push back. We question. We expect more.
I remember clearly when I drew my line in the sand. My mom was worried that I would fail in a business venture that I had undertaken, and so she warned me to be careful.
“You need to do something stable and find yourself,” she said.
It was then I told her that I would probably never have a “normal life.”
“What if you fail?” she asked, her eyes filled with fear.
“I will try again…and again…and again,” I told her. “You never know when your next idea will be the next Twitter or Apple or YouTube.”
The Renegade’s Gift
Just as I was getting all worked up and stressed out about what I should be doing that I was supposed to be doing, I remembered the Renegade’s Gift.
This gift is for each of us who choose to chart our own course and dance to the music of our own song. The gift is that the “supposed to’s” become commentary on the lives of those who choose the normal path.
The “normal” life is not necessarily bad or wrong…but it is wrong for me (and for you).
I have a friend who has a good job he enjoys. He has a good social life and is very secure and stable. He is content with his life as it is and has no ambition to rock the boat.
That is okay…for him, but not for me. That is the beauty of life. We each get to choose exactly what we want it to be.
Trading the Stress
So I am deciding to trade in the stress of the expectations and “supposed to’s.”
I am crafting my unconventional life. I am creating the experience I want to live. I am doing things differently, and that is okay.
I invite you to join me. It is my personal mission to live life well, and I want the same for you. Over the coming months, I will be articulating what this means more clearly and encouraging you to clarify what a life “well-lived” means for you (and more importantly, identify the actions to take to create such a life).
There is no “right” way to do this, since I am creating it as I go, so you will be in on all the ups (and probably some downs). You’ll share my successes, and laugh with me at the “duds”.
But I promise you this: we will learn, we will grow and we will live an extraordinary life in the mean time!
So whatdya say? Shall we get started?
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